Maybe stories are just data with a soul.
Courage, the original definition of courage, when it first came into the English language - it's from the Latin word cor, meaning heart - and the original definition was to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart.
Courage - To tell the story of who you are with your whole heart.
Tell your story with your whole heart.
Shame derives its power from being unspeakable...If we speak shame, it begins to wither. Just the way exposure to light was deadly for the gremlins, language and story bring light to shame and destroy it.
Empathy doesn't require that we have the exact same experiences as the person sharing their story with us...Empathy is connecting with the emotion that someone is experiencing, not the event or the circumstance.
Share with people who have earned the right to hear your story.
You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.
If we own the story then we can write the ending.
Courage is telling our story, not being immune to criticism.
If you own this story you get to write the ending.
If we share our shame story with the wrong person, they can easily become one more piece of flying debris in an already dangerous storm.(page 10)
If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.
I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.
When we deny our stories, They define us. When we own our stories, we get to write the ending.
Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it- it can't survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. When we bury our story, the shame metastasizes.