The coaches don't like it when people don't contact them,...

The coaches don't like it when people don't contact them, because then it looks like they're trying to sneak in. I wouldn't want to keep secrets from my coach. I know he has my best interests in mind. I always talk to him about it. Honesty is important. You have to be honest because if you're not, it's going to come out badly for more than just one party in the situation.