Men recognize marriage is going to be a roller coaster. But they're willing to ride it out because they like the company.
If a man contributes fairly it seems to have a lot of ramifications for the rest of the marriage.
Most men are pretty happy in their marriages. For the most part, men tend to waive the pros and the cons and for 80-90% of the men, the pros well outweigh the cons.
What I wanted to do was hear what men actually had to say. I didn't interview any women for the book.
The man is apt to believe that she's OK with some small gesture. It could mean a small gift or a back rub.