We can't expect everybody to be there for us, all at once. So it's a lucky thing that really, all you need is someone.
All you could do was take on as much weight as you can bear. And if you're lucky, there's someone close enough by to shoulder the rest.
When you had to do something, you had to do it. And eventually, if you were lucky, you did it well.
No one could tell you: you just had to go through it on your own. If you were lucky, you came out on the other side and understood. If you didn't, you kept getting thrust back, retracing those steps, until you finally got it right.