Joyce Brothers Quotations

A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success.

Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.

No matter how love-sick a woman is, she shouldn't take the first pill that comes along.

The topic of trust is an important factor in all matters of the heart - and here's why. Men lie to women. Women lie to men. And most people agree that some lying is even necessary - to avoid petty squabbles and to grease the wheels of a relationship.

The world at large does not judge us by who we are and what we know; it judges us by what we have.

Accept that all of us can be hurt, that all of us can and surely will at times fail. Other vulnerabilities, like being embarrassed or risking love, can be terrifying, too. I think we should follow a simple rule: if we can take the worst, take the risk.

Feeling gratitude isn't born in us - it's something we are taught, and in turn, we teach our children.

Virginity is such a personal thing. You can't judge anyone on it. A lot of young women feel they want to save themselves for the man who they think they'll love forever.

Marriage is not just spiritual communion, it is also remembering to take out the trash.

Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable.

Marriages, like careers, need constant nurturing... the secret of having it all is loving it all.

Trust your hunches. They're usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level.

The cynic finds love with the idealist. The rebel with the conformist. The social butterfly with the bookworm. They help each other balance their lives.

Real intimacy is only possible to the degree that we can be honest about what we are doing and feeling.

Being taken for granted can be a compliment. It means that you've become a comfortable, trusted element in another person's life.

Credit buying is much like being drunk. The buzz happens immediately and gives you a lift... The hangover comes the day after.

The person interested in success has to learn to view failure as a healthy, inevitable part of the process of getting to the top.

Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery.

If Shakespeare had to go on an author tour to promote Romeo and Juliet, he never would have written Macbeth.

I have found in work that you only get back what you put into it, but it does come back gift-wrapped.

Never try to negotiate with anyone after he or she has eaten. People are best persuaded on an empty stomach. And forget power breakfasts. There is no convincing anyone of anything before 10 A.M.

For men to be virgins, we think it's negative. We think that there's something wrong with them.

I don't give advice. I can't tell anybody what to do. Instead I say this is what we know about this problem at this time. And here are the consequences of these actions.

There is such a thing as bad publicity.

Men are not conditioned to be less powerful than a woman. It will be the wise woman who realizes this and is sensitive to that issue.

I watched the Trade Center buildings go down from my balcony, and it was a terrifying moment. I couldn't get my mind around it at all.

I've enjoyed the pleasures of working since I was 12 and earned all my own spending money since I was 14.

Real intimacy depends on truth - lovingly told - especially in the bedroom.

As a celebrity, you get a certain number of free passes. You're actually in a better position if you're a celebrity because people care.

We're so interested in it because it's different for everyone.

Here we have a man who did all he could for his company and was thrown out. But a dog will repay loyalty with loyalty.

The more we have, the more we want. And for this reason, we never have it all

Men have two basic needs. Neither of them, no matter what they say, is sex. They need love and they need work. And work takes priority over love. If a woman could know only one fact about men and work, it should be that work is the most seductive mistress most men ever have.

Whatever a man thinks about sex, you can be sure that he thinks about sex almost constantly.

The simple but observable fact is that the more you love, the more you are able to love.

The best proof of love is trust.

There is a rule in sailing where the more maneuverable ship should give way to the less maneuverable craft. I think this is sometimes a good rule to follow in human relationships as well.

Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery. . . . If you want to influence someone, listen to what he says. . . . When he finishes talking, ask him about any points that you do not understand.

Women who are confident of their abilities are more likely to succeed than those who lack confidence, even though the latter may be much more competent and talented and industrious.

Happiness hides in life’s small details. If you’re not looking, it becomes invisible.

Before your dreams can come true, you have to have those dreams.

Nothing brings families together faster than forgiveness. That should make it Step No. 1, but most of us find forgiving hard. We associate it with weakness and losing when, actually, the reverse is true. When you forgive, you gain strength and come out a winner. You break free of control by the other person's actions.

The only people who don't make mistakes are the people who don't do anything.

They say that money is not everything. I say that when you don't have any, it is everything.

Any man who watches more than three consecutive football games on TV in one day can be declared legally dead.

Scientists still know less about what attracts men than they do about what attracts mosquitoes.

Some men are self-made, but most are the revised work of a wife and children.

A person's self-concept is the core of his personality.

If you change nothing, nothing changes.

Those who are the most happy appear to know it the least; happiness is something that for the most part seems to mainly consist in not knowing it.

If we did get a divorce, the only way my husband would find out about it is if they announced it on Wide World of Sports.

It is a man's world at the top, at the bottom, and in between. Men are in the catbird seat as far as income, opportunity, status, and power are concerned. This is the way it always has been and, as far as men are concerned, it is the way it always should be.

Love, real love, is not simply a state of bliss. It is an ever-changing state, the result of time and emotional development, of trust and commitment.

... no matter how great the differences are between men and women, the differences among members of the same sex are usually equally great if not greater.

When you come right down to it, the secret to having it all is loving it all.

Music is stored in our long-term memory. When we learn something through music, we tend to remember it longer and believe it more deeply. Dr. Joyce Brothers

Women do not dress specifically for men or against other women. They dress for their subconscious.

Sex and love are like tea and milk. They can be mixed or they can be taken straight. Each has certain distinctive characteristics, but when they are combined they form a unique substance.

Hunches are a kind of subterranean logic shorthand.

Strong families use the word we a lot, but I is never forgotten. Family members know they have the freedom to go off on their own, even if the direction is one that we have never followed before. The family message is, We're behind you, so you can be you.

A philosopher is a person who doesn't care which side his bread is buttered on; he knows he eats both sides anyway.

I don't believe in luck. We make our own good fortune.

Feeling gratitude isn't born in us-it's something we are taught, and in turn, we teach our children.

I have emerged from the tunnel of grief into the light. Life is better. Not the same, but good and getting better all the time.

The need to connect with one another intimately is what makes and keeps us human. The challenge throughout life is to find the courage to reach out to potential partners when our primary relationship ends and to recharge our tried-and-true unions when their sizzle starts to fizzle.

A woman should never underestimate the power of the child in the man. Sometimes the child seems to be in the driver's seat at the very moment when all a man's adult judgment and insight is needed.

The best of all possible marriages is a seesaw in which first one, then the other partner is dominant.

Don't fool yourself that you are going to have it all. You are not. Psychologically, having it all is not even a valid concept. The marvelous thing about human beings is that we are perpetually reaching for the stars. The more we have, the more we want. And for this reason, we never have it all.

For some reason, we see divorce as a signal of failure, despite the fact that each of us has a right, and an obligation, to rectify any other mistake we make in life.

Those who have easy, cheerful attitudes tend to be happier than those with less pleasant temperaments, regardless of money, making it, or success.

When you forgive, you gain strength and come out a winner.

When success comes in the door, it seems, love often goes out the window.

No matter how lovesick a woman is, she shouldn't take the first pill that comes along.

No matter how much pressure you feel at work, if you could find ways to relax for at least five minutes every hour, you’d be more productive.

If your energy is as boundless as your ambition, total commitment may be a way of life you should seriously consider

If a child is given love, he becomes loving ... If he's helped when he needs help, he becomes helpful. And if he has been truly valued at home ... he grows up secure enough to look beyond himself to the welfare of others.

Don't always try to be popular. It isn't possible for everyone to like you. It's far more important for you to like yourself. And when you respect yourself, strangely, you get more respect than when you court it from others.

I think we should follow a simple rule: if we can take the worst, take the risk.

Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the crudest words.

There's a very positive relationship between people's ability to accomplish any task and the time they're willing to spend on it.

Studies indicate that the one quality all successful people have is persistence.

My husband and I have never considered divorce... murder sometimes, but never divorce.

The greatest happiness is family happiness.

When you look at your life, the greatest happinesses are family happinesses.

In each of us there are places we have never gone. Only by pressing the limits do you ever find them.