Karrine Steffans Quotations

Life is a lot easier when you realize that you're not in control of it all.

We know what happens to little black boys that have no dads; we've heard that, we get it. But no one is really saying that young women who are born without fathers have real serious issues especially when their mother had no father and the mother has issues.

I never heard 'I love you' as a child. I never felt pretty or cared for.

The entertainment industry is vast and is a reflection of the society we live in.

A lot of times, women complain about men around them. It's not always someone else's fault. If you're the common denominator in 57 different relationships that didn't work out, then maybe, just maybe... it's you!

Every man is different. You can't generalize with men; you have to find out what your man wants. You have to listen to him when he's telling you what he wants, because a lot of times they're telling you, but you're not listening.

I've always had a man's mindset, and that's why I mostly have men friends, and that's why I've been around so many men. I've always been a tomboy. And any man that knows me will tell you I'm not a girly girl.

Everyone in Hollywood is seeking fame and fortune; it's in the water here. Everyone from young women to old men - they all want it.

I have me. I have God. I have my son. Everything else is extra.

Something that always fascinated me was the psychology and the psychology differences between men and women and how we relate to one another.

There are a lot of things that I have not shared that I will never share. I do have a personal private life.

When Goldie Hawn wrote her memoirs, no one said Goldie Hawn was snitching. When Jane Fonda wrote her memoirs, no one said Jane Fonda was snitching.

Your man wants to know that there's nothing you wouldn't do for him - if that's your committed relationship.

Any good writer is going to be well-received and is going to not be well-received; that's how you know you're a great writer.

For women especially, its important to be financially independent.

I am not, and have no interest in being, a musician of any kind.

I don't even listen to hip-hop anymore. All my friends are white and over 40.

I remember specifically my mother telling me growing up don't put my business in the street. I was like seven, and I am like, 'What does that mean.

I've never been a model, I was an actress for like a minute, but I've always been a writer. That's where I'm going to stay.

My grandfather started his autobiography before he died; he never finished it. I would like to finish his autobiography because I finished mine.

Confessions of a Video Vixen' is not a book about my encounters with celebrities, or anyone else for that matter. It is my life story, thus far, which just so happens to include some people you may have heard of.

I've been writing since I'm five years old. I've been writing books since high school - junior high, high school. I write every single day. I never thought I'd be published.

In certain parts of the world - where I'm at right now in New York, you're going to pay a whole lot more. In Los Angeles, your average starter home is a million dollars. So I need more money in Los Angeles to live like a normal person. If I live in another city, Iowa maybe, I wouldn't need as much.

We have to change our behavior. We are the mother, the first teacher and we have to start our own revolution. We need to speak up and say we don't like this music, we don't want to wear these clothes, and we need to educate ourselves and stop letting the men get all that air time.

We have to change our behavior, ... We are the mother, the first teacher, and we have to start our own revolution. We need to speak up and say we don't like this music, we don't want to wear these clothes, and we need to educate ourselves and stop letting the men get all that airtime.

Bill was my perfect match. (Love-making) was explosive and amazing.

Despite what she thinks, she and I are not that different, ... I have even heard her being referred to as a 'Hollywood Hop' for the many men in Hollywood who have bedded her and moved on.

I heard they call Tyra 'Hollywood Hop,' ... for the many men in Hollywood who have bedded Tyra and moved on.

all I could think about was snatching her wig off!

The saying is, life is short, but what if it's not? But if life is short, is this how you would like to spend your last days? And if life is long, is this how you want to spend 50, 60, or 70 years? Being ashamed? Being quiet? Hoping no one notices you? Not telling the truth? Walking around heavy? If I die in my sleep tonight, God forbid, I am happy with how I've lived my life. I've lived it truthfully.

Everyone has to grow up and that's what we're all doing; we're just doing it in different ways.

The thing about loving someone is that you have to love them the way they need to be loved and not the way you want to love them.

I don't recognize hate, I don't recognize bitterness, I don't recognize jealousy, I don't recognize greed. I don't give them power. They don't exist to me.

Learning unconditional love helped me have healthier relationships, including my current marriage.

I am the queen of everything. Every woman is.

When you start defining yourself, you put yourself in boxes and I don't want to be trapped in anything because I will always evolve - I will always change. It's like water. I take on many shapes. Everyone should be that way and not define themselves. I am everything.

Everyone is so afraid of making themselves look bad and of judgement.

Making bad decisions and choosing the wrong partner can ruin your life for a long time, perhaps forever.

My happiness came from learning my purpose, which is to be honest and to share things that normal people probably wouldn't share, in an effort to support and uplift other women. I love that my journey gives other women hope, letting them see how far God can bring a soul.

I want them [female fans] to not be afraid to live life, to not be afraid to make bad decisions because there are a lot of lessons and blessings in those decisions. Sometimes, if you don't fall into the pit, you won't reach out to God.

It's my job to turn my mess [life] into a message and never regret a day of my life.

As for the healing, that comes from the writing, from living and writing. That's my catharsis. That's why I never regret sharing because it's part of my healing!

I remember sitting in my room and thinking of where it all went wrong and how I ended up losing control of everything, and I realized I hadn't asked myself one question: And then what? That was my most important lesson. I learned to think about the consequences before the action and that saves me, to this day, from a lot of trouble. If you play it down the line, you'll start making better choices.

When I die, the world is going to talk about me. They will never forget me and I will never have any regrets. If nothing else, the world will know I was here. I think that everyone should make their mark wherever they are. They will talk about you way after you're gone. Make your mark. Live your life.

People don't change at their core. If you're a good person, you are a good person. What changes is our behavior.

People are attracted to your light because they want it for themselves. It's like fireflies. When we were kids in New York, we would visit my dad and catch fireflies because we were so attracted to their light. Put them in jars next to our bed, and then they'd die. Then we'd go out the next night and get another firefly. That's how people are.

Live life without being afraid of judgment from others because judgment from other sinners is invalid.

I don't believe in regrets. I don't think regrets actually exist. I think regrets are things people make up in their heads. So, I don't regret anything. Everything turned out exactly the way it was supposed to.

When it comes to my interpersonal relationships with men, of course, a lifetime of abuse vastly affected everything I did. I always came from a place of abuse, actually wanting, welcoming, and accepting it because that was my language. It never seemed strange to me.