Self-esteem comes from the self, not from acquisitions and approval.
You get the most approval when you care the least about it.
Needing approval is like saying 'your view of me is more important than my own opinion of myself'.
Don't allow the approval and attention of others to destroy you.
The people who receive the most approval in life are the ones who care the least about it--so technically, if you want the approval of others, you need to stop caring about it.