To judge wisely, we must know how things appear to the unwise.
But how little we know what would make paradise for our neighbours! We judge from our own desires, and our neighbours themselves are not always open enough even to throw out a hint of theirs.
We have all our secret sins; and if we knew ourselves we should not judge each other harshly.
We judge other according to results; how else?--not knowing the process by which results are arrived at.
Hear Everything and judge for yourself
Don't judge a book by its cover
But that intimacy of mutual embarrassment, in which each feels that the other is feeling something, having once existed, its effect is not to be done away with.