Barbara de Angelis Quotations

You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.

What allows us, as human beings, to psychologically survive life on earth, with all of its pain, drama, and challenges, is a sense of purpose and meaning

We don't develop courage by being happy every day. We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.

The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It's a choice you make on your wedding day, and over and over again and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband...

The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together.

Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible - it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could.

We need to find the courage to say no to the things and people that are not serving us if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity.

Only when your consciousness is totally focused on the moment you are in can you receive whatever gift, lesson, or delight that moment has to offer.

No matter what age you are, or what your circumstances might be, you are special and you still have something unique to offer. Your life, because of who you are, has meaning.

Love's greatest gift is its ability to make everything it touches sacred.

Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day.

In order to experience everyday spirituality, we need to remember that we are spiritual beings spending some time in a human body.

The moment in between what you once were, and who you are now becoming, is where the dance of life really takes place.

Love is a choice you make from moment to moment.

Difficult times always create opportunities for you to experience more love in your life.

No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.

When you make a commitment to a relationship, you invest your attention and energy in it more profoundly because you now experience ownership of that relationship.

Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.

Women need real moments of solitude and self reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.

If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself.

Men are just as sensitive, and in some ways more sensitive, than women are.

The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.

A man's brain has a more difficult time shifting from thinking to feeling than a women's brain does.

Men aren't the way they are because they want to drive women crazy; they've been trained to be that way for thousands of years. And that training makes it very difficult for men to be intimate.

It is easy to be mindless in America, because dreaming of and living for a better tomorrow is the American way. ... The problem is, in the second half of the twentieth century, we have gotten so good at living for tomorrow that most of us spend very little time in the present.

Happiness is not an acquisition - it is a skill. We do not experience happiness because of what we get. We experience happiness because of how we live each moment.

Love is the magician of the universe. It creates everything out of nothing.

Love and kindness are never wasted.

I invite people to examine their lives without negativity, knowing that it's scary, but that not doing it is even scarier.

If your day is full of little mean, dark thoughts, is it any wonder you feel crabby? Maybe it's because you let your mind run wild like a dog putting its nose into garbage everywhere.

The greatest gift you and your partner can give your children is the example of an intimate, healthy, and loving relationship.

The obstacles in our path are not blocking us-they are redirecting us. Their purpose is not to interfere with our happiness; it is to point us toward new routes to our happiness, new possibilities, new doorways.

I have experienced a lifetime of real moments, and many of them were happy moments.

Silence and solitude are confrontational. They plunge us instantly into the truth.

They're basically moments in which you're in touch with the meaning of life, when your relationship to the rest of the universe makes sense.

When you're used to getting just a piece of bread for a meal, you don't realize that you can ask for a plate of pasta. You have never seen a plate of pasta. You don't even know it exists. So, to ask for it is totally out of your reality. Hopefully, at some point, either someone shows you a plate of pasta, you read about it, or you hear about it enough so that it becomes real, and it's not just a fantasy anymore, and then you start thinking "Hey, I want that pasta."

A wise word is more rare than the green emerald, and one can find the word of wisdom even amongst the slave girls making grain.

May all that is not love within us and without be healed. May all that is love within us and without us be revealed. May every day of our lives be lived in love.

Don't be proud of what you know, and don't be self-confident if you are learned. Be open to advice from the unlearned as well as from the learned. Art knows no limit, and the artists will never achieve perfection.

Love makes every space sacred and every moment meaningful . . .

Passion begins where your bodies unite and ends where your souls dance. When your spirits can join together at the same time as your bodies become one, then all of you will be making love. There will be nothing left between you that is not love. This is sacred communion. This is ecstasy.

When I look for happiness, I lose it. When I stop looking, and surrender to where I am, I find it.

When you live with constant gratitude, your life will become a living prayer.

All addictions have one thing in common - they numb you out to what is happening in the moment.

in all codependent relationships, the rescuer needs the victim as much as the victim needs the rescuer.

One of the most courageous things we do is change. If everyone says you're wonderful every time you wear a red dress, and you change to yellow, that takes courage.

when your field is architecture, you go visit the great cathedrals of the world. My field was relationships. I got married many times. I was practicing. I didn't date much; I just would get married. I thought, why waste time?

It is inherent in human consciousness to improve. So there is nothing unique about a people searching for and creating ways to make their life better - all civilizations throughout history have done this. What is unique about us in America is the accelerated rate at which we continually search for novelty and progress.

Passion acts like a magnet that attracts us to its source. We are drawn to people who radiate with passion, who live with passion, who breathe with passion. Your passion is your true power. The more you discover and express your passion for life, the more irresistible you will become to others.

no job is a good job if it isn't good for you.

Temporary feelings of regret are a normal part of the mourning process. This helps us retrieve our lost dreams. If we hold on to regret, we risk trapping ourselves in a prison of unrealized dreams from which it is difficult to escape.

I just want to get a Ph.D. in love.

If you let your mind talk you out of things that aren't logical, you're going to have a very boring life. Because grace isn't logical. Love isn't logical. Miracles aren't logical.

If you don't develop your skill at enjoying what you have, you won't be any happier when you get more.

Passion is not a quality that is foreign to you. It is not a characteristic that some people are born with and some must do without. To be passionate is as natural to you as breathing, as natural as being alive. It is the source of who you are.

No one betrays us as much in our lives as we betray ourselves.

Your passion is your true power. The more you discover and express your passion for life, the more irresistible you will become to others.

A lot of people don't know what they want or they want much less than they deserve.

You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back. The heart will break... but broken live on.

When will you know you have enough, and what will you do then?

I believe tears are holy, because they show us that the ice of our heart is melting.

That experience showed me that I-from moment to moment-am the only person in control of my connection to God. It's not that God is deciding to connect with me, depending on whether I had a good day, or did good or bad deeds. It's all up to me. God, the awareness of God, the love of God, the blessings of God-that lively ecstasy-is always there. It's me who separates from God by judging, by indulging in negativity, by criticizing myself, as well as others.

To succeed, you have to do something and be very bad at it for a while. You have to look bad before you can look really good.

Living with integrity means... behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values.

Silence has a regenerative power of its own. It is always sacred. It always returns you home.

It takes a lot of courage to be the same person on the outside that you are on the inside.

All relationships are your mirrors and all people are your teachers.

There has never been, and never again will be a human being like you. There is nothing ordinary about you. If you feel ordinary, it is because you have chosen to hide the extraordinary parts of yourself from the world.

You can't ask for what you want unless you know what it is. A lot of people don't know what they want or they want much less than they deserve. First you have figure out what you want. Second, you have to decide that you deserve it. Third, you have to believe you can get it. And, fourth, you have to have the guts to ask for it

At the end of our time on earth, if we have lived fully, we will not be able to say, 'I was always happy.' Hopefully, we will be able to say, 'I have experienced a lifetime of real moments, and many of them were happy moments.'

Living with integrity means...not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships; asking for what you want and need from others; speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension; behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values; making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.

Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible -- it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could.

Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.

I just want to get a Ph.D. in love.