All of life presents itself as a cycle of cause and effect. When this cycle is negative, there are three ways to change. You can change the cause, change the effect, or choose the most powerful option become the cause!
The key to being with family is to engage with those we love in a way we would teach to those we love.
To influence others to change, you must be able to frame that change in terms of the future, and in a way that has value to all concerned.
Change isn't always easy, but with purposeful practice, any old habit can be replaced with a way of being we would recommend to those we love.
The way to encourage people to be accountable is to engage the responsible, accountable, trustworthy part of their brain.