Most of us do not 'sculpt' our lives. We accept what comes our way, then we gripe about it.
The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out... and do it.
The truth is: If you knew you could handle anything that came your way, what would you have to fear. The answer is: NOTHING!
Every time you encounter something that forces you to “handle it,” your self-esteem is raised considerably. You learn to trust that you will survive, no matter what happens. And in this way your fears are diminished immeasurably.
The biggest pitfall as you make your way through your life is impatience.
One step at a time is enough for me. Impatience is simply a way of beating yourself up.